Everything That is Given Is Not What I Planned

Thursday, March 12, 2009

We are beginning to head down the road to residental treatment

The reports are starting to come in and it is not good. Today I was counseled about what is going on, in preparation for the final report. I was told the final "words" do not necessarily mean admittance to a mental care facility but then that "but" hovers in the air.

Of course it is the early days yet so I hold out hope that medication and cognitive therapy will work for Sasha. Ironically, the specialists are finding us attached. I, frankly, would give anything for attachment disorder issues. If that were our worst problem, I would feel so lucky.

Instead I found my son yesterday tied to the banister wherein he used the arm of his shirt to fasten himself to one of the posts. When I asked him what was going on he just laughed and laughed and laughed.

I will continue to work at solving this problem for Sasha because I love him. The adoption agency I went through, Children's Hope International, totally sucks!! A day and a half into me having physical custody of Sasha, they told me it was due to my "inconsistent parenting." Of course that is not true. Even today they told me that if I had been a "bad" parent it still would not have caused the situation Sasha is in today. I so totally do not like the adoption agency people. They do very very bad things to people wanting a family.

And so it goes. Please pray for us.

5 comments:

Cindy said...

Oh, my goodness. I don't see a residential facility helping Sasha. I realize I don't have the medical expertise to make that assumption, but knowing what he went through in another institution, how will this help him to adjust and accept and feel safe ever again? I pray for you all the time and you're always in my thoughts. I know YOU know what is best for Sasha. You've spent the time with him and see it. Someone who spends an hour evaluating him couldn't possibly be seeing the full picture, could they? Since the national CHI office closed down our local Kansas City office last year right when I was adopting Vika, we don't have any support either, really. The locals were so wonderful and the very reason I chose CHI....not STL. I do have to say that our contract social worker doing the post-adoption reports stays in touch and is very sweet and interested, but they basically booted her out of the business, too. She's only under contract part-time for CHI now. All so sad. I don't blame the economy on this situation with CHI. I think it's other business decisions they were making that led to this condition. Just know that I'm here for you, too! My dad says hello.

Casey said...

Sarah..you and Sasha will be in my prayers. I really hope he doesnt have to go to residential treatment, but I suppose in the end you have to do what is best for all concerned. I know you love him. This just sucks!

Laurie

Carey and Norman said...
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Carey and Norman said...

Okay, I'm starting over. I didn't mean for my comment to seem short. I'm just really at a loss for words. I just want you to know that you remain in my thoughts and prayers. I pray that God continue to give you (and your mother) strength and encouragement as you make BIG decisions! What a hard time for you and Sasha. I pray that God gives you peace and help as you move forward!

Bill and Myra said...

My prayers are with you. My heart breaks for you but I know that you know what is best for your son. I will continue to pray for you and for Sasha.

Myra